I always find this type of prompt to be difficult to write. Many stories that would qualify, have already been used for other prompts. Others are too recent, with too many people involved or affected by the event still living. They need time to recover from whatever happened. They don’t need me to be ripping off their band aid prematurely.
There is more to a person than the worst thing that ever happened to them. Or the worst choice they ever made. Do I ignore them, because trying to write about those things is awkward? Do I pretend those things didn’t happen, despite the impact to their life? How do I balance remembering the person accurately, with remembering them compassionately? Which stories are okay to tell, and which should wait another 10, 20, 30 years?
It’s an inexact decision process, and one I don’t take lightly.
Delia Mentzer was a 2nd cousin of my grandfather, Christoph Jacob Meintzer. No, that wasn’t a typo I let slip by. Delia was from the “Meintzers without the i” branch of the family. Her grandfather, Johann Philippe Adam Meintzer (Phillip) emigrated from Alsace in 1842. He quickly dropped the i from his name, though occasionally it shows up incorrectly in various records. The other Meintzers emigrating later settled in the Northfield/Northbrook area, because Phillip’s family was there. The new families (my great-grandfather and the Fulton County, Ohio, Meintzers) left the i in their surnames.
Delia was the youngest child of Phillip’s oldest child, Heinrich (Henry), so she never knew that grandfather, who had died 20 years before Delia’s birth. Despite being a more distant cousin, her name came up early in my genealogy research. The immigration narrative presumably written by my grandaunt, Sophie Meintzer Kranz, mentioned Delia by name:
I love this kind of document, but it’s frustrating without a signature. I have to hope the people identifying it by the handwriting have it right. “Where Delia lives now” is rather useless without a date of when it was written. Did it mean her father’s farm in 1881 (on Sanders Road)? Or somewhere else? The farm was the most likely place, but without a date, there will always be a question.
Regardless, Delia has always been part of the family history. She was born 1 August 1893 in Northfield Township; the rural area north of the Chicago city limits. Now part of the urban sprawl, back then it was out in the boondocks. The eleventh (and last) child of Henry Mentzer and Salomea Koebelin, three older siblings had already died before Delia’s birth. Her full name was Ardelia Ernestine, and “Ardelia” showed up in many of her records—just not her birth record2. Like many babies, her birth record contained only a last name!
She appeared with her family in all the census records from 1900 to 19303. After her mother died in 1906, Delia took over the housekeeping duties of the family. The 1940 census4 recorded she had completed 7th grade, which would be consistent with that timeline.
By 1910, she and her brother, Louis, were the only children still living at home. After their father died in 1927, she and Louis remained on the farm, through at least the 1930 census. She and Louis both attended the 1930 reunion. She was the 6th person from the left in row 3. Unfortunately, her head is behind another woman (Evelyn Kranz), so Delia’s hat and arm are the only parts visible! Louis is the person on the left end of row 2.
On 6 January 1932, Delia married Herman Johann Philipp Werhane.5 He was her first cousin, and 25 years older than she. Herman’s mother, Anna, was the younger sister of Delia’s father, Henry. Several other Mentzer-Werhane matches existed. It was a small community, so that wasn’t unusual. Herman also attended the 1930 reunion, and is easily found in the back row, to the right of the man in the dark suit.
Herman had been married before, with four children from that union—two of them younger than Delia. His first wife had died in 1921, and his three surviving children were all married. The 1930 census showed Herman living in Glenview with his youngest daughter’s family.
How or why Herman and Delia decided to marry, I can’t say. The 1940 census had them farming on Sanders Road, with Delia’s brother elsewhere. It seemed Herman was keeping the Mentzer farm active. Herman and Delia went on to have two children.
On 23 May 1949, Herman found Delia, dead, in a hayloft on their farm.
“By her side was an old revolver with which she apparently shot herself.”
Chicago Tribune, 24 May 1949
The prompt was tragedy, remember?
A local paper provided a few more details revealed at the inquest held the next day. She was found early Monday morning, and the gun was a rusty 32 calibre that had been in a bureau drawer for eight years. She shot herself through the temple.
“Her husband testified . . . that his wife was in apparently good spirits when she left the house. She asked her husband to put the cow to pasture while she cut some rhubarb.”
Cook County Herald, 27 May 1949, p. 1.
When Herman came back to the house and couldn’t find her there, he went looking for her.
The story is tragic. Her children were teenagers at the time—I’m not sure whether that made the situation better or worse. Herman was 81. He died in September, 1950, (a little more than a year later) leaving the children orphaned. I don’t know who took them in, but they remained in the area at least until adulthood. Half-siblings and other relatives from both sides lived nearby, so there should have been someone able to take care of them while they finished high school.
The soon-to-be-released 1950 census probably won’t answer the question of where the kids settled after their father died, because it would have been taken earlier in the year, before his death. It seems unlikely the kids would have been moved to another household after Delia’s death, unless Herman felt raising them by himself was too much at his age. I guess I’ll see.
When a tragedy occurs, it’s human nature to try to make sense of it. Most of the time we are unsuccessful, because there are no answers. Delia’s death was obviously tragic for her family, but it had to have rippled throughout the larger community. While the area had become more populated by the mid-1940s, many of the families were still very interconnected. They didn’t lose just anyone—they lost one of their own.
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1“U.S., Social Security Applications and Claims Index, 1936-2007”, database, Ancestry.com (https://www.ancestry.com), accessed 16 August 2021, citing Social Security Applications and Claims, 1936-2007, (index only); dated June 1946. Entry for Delia Ernestine MENTZER.
2“Cook County, Illinois, U.S., Birth Certificates Index, 1871-1922”, database, Ancestry.com (https://www.ancestry.com), accessed 16 August 2021, entry for MENTZER, 1 August 1893, citing “Illinois, Cook County Birth Certificates, 1878-1922,” certificate # n.g., FHL Film 1,287,793. Illinois Department of Public Health, Division of Vital Records, Springfield.
31900 U.S. census, population schedule, Illinois, Cook, Northfield Township, e.d. 1176; Page 12A; dwelling number 156; family number 161; line 45; Henry MENTZER household; accessed 15 August 2021. Ardelia MENTZER, age 7, August 1892; NARA microfilm publication T623, roll 294; digital image, Ancestry.com (https://www.ancestry.com).
1910 U.S. census, population schedule, Illinois, Cook, Northfield, e.d. 63; Page 11A; dwelling number 87; family number 88; line 17; Heinrich MENTZER household; accessed 15 August 2021. Dillia (incorrectly indexed as Lillia) MENTZER, age 16; NARA microfilm publication T624, roll 238; digital image, Ancestry.com (https://www.ancestry.com).
1920 U.S. census, population schedule, Illinois, Cook, Northfield, e.d. 139; Page 16B; dwelling number 332; family number 332; line 86; Henry MINTZER [MENTZER] household; accessed 15 August 2021. Delia MINTZER [MENTZER], age 26; NARA microfilm publication T625, roll 358; digital image, Ancestry.com (https://www.ancestry.com).
1930 U.S. census, population schedule, Illinois, Cook, Northfield Township, section 6, e.d. 16-2242; Page 1B; dwelling number 16; family number 19; line 81; Louis MENTZER household; accessed 14 August 2021. Ardelia MENTZER, age 36; NARA microfilm publication T626, roll 504; digital image, Ancestry.com (https://www.ancestry.com).
41940 U.S. census, population schedule, Illinois, Cook, Northfield Township, e.d. 16-346A; Page 3B; household number 65; line 72; Herman J. WERHANE household; accessed 15 August 2021. Delia WERHANE, age 46; NARA microfilm publication T627, roll 784; digital image, Ancestry.com (https://www.ancestry.com).
5“Cook County, Illinois Marriage Index, 1930-1960”, database, Ancestry.com (https://www.ancestry.com), accessed 15 August 2021, citing Cook County Clerk Genealogy Records, file# 1333244 Cook County Clerk’s Office, Chicago, Illinois. Herman WERHANE and Ardelia MENTZER.